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Friday, 17 April 2009

Victoreous Talibans establish Marriage Bureau in Swat !!

سوات میں طالبان کا ’شادی مرکز‘
عبدالحئی کاکٹر
صوبہ سرحد کے ضلع سوات میں طالبان نے رشتے کروانے کے لیے ’شعبہ عروسات‘ کے نام سے ایک الگ شعبہ قائم کردیا ہے
اور طالبان کے مطابق ان کی فہرست میں شامل شادی کی خواہش مند تین سو لڑکے لڑکیاں اپنی باری کا انتظار کررہی ہیں۔
سوات میں طالبان کے ترجمان مسلم خان نے بی بی سی کو بتایا کہ رشتوں کے لیے الگ شعبہ کچھ عرصےقبل قائم کیاگیا ہے جس کی سربراہی ابو عماد نامی ایک طالب کمانڈر کررہے ہیں۔ ان کے بقول اسے ’شعبہ عروسات‘ کا نام دیا گیا ہے جس کا مقصد ان مردوں اور خواتین کے رشتے کروانے ہیں جو اپنی مرضی سے شادی کرنا چاہتے ہیں مگر خاندان والے کسی نہ کسی حوالے سے انہیں ایسا کرنا نہیں دے رہے ہیں۔
ان کے بقول انہوں نے اس مقصد کے لیے ایک فون نمبر مختص کیا ہوا ہے جس پر لڑکے یا لڑکیاں رابطہ کرکے اپنی مرضی سے شادی کے خواہش کا اظہار کرتے ہیں اور طالبان ان کے کوائف اپنے پاس درج کرنے کے بعد ان کے خاندان والوں سے رابط کرتے ہیں۔ان کے بقول اپنی مرضی سے شادی کرنا ہر مسلمان کا شرعی حق ہے۔
مسلم خان کا کہنا تھا کہ انہیں زیادہ تر ان لڑکیوں یا ا ن کے خاندان والوں کی طرف سے فون موصول ہوتے ہیں جو طالبان جنگجوؤں کے ساتھ شادی کے خواہشمند ہوتے ہیں۔ ان کے مطابق گزشتہ نو دنوں کے دوران گیارہ جوڑوں کی شادیاں کرائی گئی ہیں جبکہ تین سو لڑکے لڑکیاں ایسی ہیں جنہوں نے فہرست میں نام لکھوایا ہے اور اب وہ اپنی باری کا انتظار کررہی ہیں۔ان کے مطابق اس قسم کے رشتوں میں شادی بیاہ کی تقریبات شان و شوکت سے نہیں بلکہ محض سادگی کے ساتھ نکاح پڑھوانے کے بعد رخصتی ہوتی ہے۔
اس سلسلے میں ایک مقامی شخص نے نام ظاہر نہ کرنے کی شرط پر بی بی سی کو بتایا کہ ان کے محلے میں ایک لڑکی ہے جس کے ساتھ ایک لڑکا شادی کرنا چاہ رہا تھا مگر خاندان والوں نے رشتہ دینے سے انکار کردیا تھا۔ ان کے بقول لڑکے نے طالبان سے رابطہ کیا جنہوں نے بعد میں لڑکی کے خاندان والوں کو زبردستی دونوں کے نکاح کرنے پر مجبور کردیا۔
بعض ذرائع کا کہنا ہے طالبان کے حالیہ اقدام کا مقصد دراصل طالبان جنگجوؤں کی اپنی مرضی سے شادی کرنے کے لیے راستہ ہموار کرنا ہے۔ مبصرین کا کہنا ہے کہ ایک طرف تو طالبان نے سوات میں لڑکی اور لڑکے کو اس بنیاد پر کوڑوں کی سزائیں دینے کا اعتراف کیا ہے کہ انہوں نے آپس میں ساتھ مبینہ طور پر رابطہ رکھا تھا اور دوسری جانب اب وہ خود مرضی سے شادی کرنے والے لڑکی اور لڑکے کے درمیان رشتے کرانے کی بات کر رہے ہیں۔
اس کے علاوہ مبصرین یہ سوال بھی اٹھا رہے ہیں کہ یہ کیسے ممکن ہے کہ لڑکا اور لڑکی ایک دوسرے کو دیکھے بغیر شادی کی خواہش کریں۔ ان کے بقول اگر ایسا نہیں ہو سکتا تو اسکا مطلب ہے کہ طالبان کی سوچ میں یا تو تضاد پایا جاتا ہے یا پھر انہوں نے خود اپنے رشتوں کے لیے ایک محفوظ راستہ تلاش کر نے کی کوشش کی ہے۔
یاد رہے کہ سوات میں ڈیڑھ سال کی فوجی کاروائی کی بظاہر ناکامی کے بعد ہونے والے معاہدے کے بعد سوات مکمل طور پر طالبان کے کنٹرول میں آچکا ہے۔ حکومت نے طالبان کے مطالبے پر وہاں نظام عدل ریگلولیشن کےتحت قاضی عدالتیں قائم کردی ہیں۔اگرچہ حکومت اور مولانا صوفی محمد کا مؤقف ہے کہ وہاں پر صرف عدالتی شریعت نافذ ہوچکی ہے اور زندگی کے باقی شعبوں پر اسکا اطلاق نہیں ہو رہا مگر طالبان نے عملاً اسے زندگی کے دیگر شعبوں پر نافذ کرنا کا سلسلہ شروع کردیا ہے۔


Shaheryar Ali said...

Its just institutionalization of molestation. These evil people have won and now are demanding the "booty" , the "Londies" which use to exist in olden time.
This is in same spirit

ExpressJodi said...

Great expectations

Life is full of surprises, particularly if you are a newly - wed . Expressjodi you a glimpse into the future and tells how to be prepared to face married life

Love is all about romance whereas marriage is a lot about responsibility. When two different individuals from different backgrounds live together, differences of opinion on things like spending habits, career, having and raising a baby, sharing household responsibilities etc, are bound to crop up, the key is to broaden your outlook and accept all the changes that marriage brings, and to remember that marriage is a momentous change for you and your spouse. And, fear not, over a period of time, you will find a way to make it work.


With marriage comes a whole lot of responsibility. "From the time you ger married, the decisions you make will not be yours alone, but your partner's as well. This is because your choices will impact both of you. But this doesn't mean that you're tied to a ball and chain. "It only means you have a companion with you for life. In fact, in your capacity as a spouse, you become your partner's caretaker, friend, confidante and even punching bag etc.


Arguments over money are bound to happen, so be prepared for it. And unless you establish some ground rules for dealing with financial issues, you will continue to have these arguments. Bear in mind that you are now a part of a unit, and no longer flying solo.

In - laws or outlaws?

if you thought that marriage is all about sharing your life with your significant other, think again, and this time, factor in your in - laws into the equation. When you're used to a particular lifestyle, moving in with your in - laws can be a rude shock. You will be required to make changes in your daily routine. Like waking up a little earlier to help around the house or rescheduling your plans on weekends or even modifying some of your eating habits. these might seem like an additional burden, particularly if you are a working woman. Remember to keep an open mind when it comes to handling your in - laws. They may be rigid in their ways, but there is always a way to work out a compromise.

Sharing space

Marriage involves sharing everything - whether it is sadness or glad tidings, chores or finance, which can be a difficult task. This is why marriage necessitates an equal contribution from both side. " Sharing is absolutely essential for a happy marriage,. Besides making it easier to run the show, it also brings you closer to your partner, and cement a bond in a way that only experience can.
Differnces of opinion

Shaadi brings two different individuals together, as well as two sets of arguments for everything. Remember that your husband is as new to the marriage and the relationship as you, and he is facing the same issue for the first time as well.Irrespective of the nature of the relationship, any two people are bound to have differences of opinion at some point of time, It is how you handle these differences that mtters. The best antidote for deviant interest lies in adapting to the situation. "Be carteful not to retaliate for the sake of it,"

Planning for the future

As a single independent working woman, you may be used to your lifestyle, going on holidays or splurging on the latest pair of Jimmy Choos. But married life is a journey and you need to plan carefully to get to your destination. "Planning is the key. Make sure you and your husband are on the same page as far as long - term goal are concerned," "Whether or not you plan to have a baby or deciding on investments for the future and are thing that you should discuss in advbance, if you want to avoid unpleasant surprises in you married life,"

ExpressJodi said...

Brahmin Shaadi
Historically, the Brahmins in india were divided into two major groups based on geographical origin of the people. The Brahmin groups that lived to the north of the vindhyas were referred to as Dravida Brahmins. Each group was further divided into five sections according to the regions of their settlement.

The Sagaai or the engagement ceremony symbolises commitment However, the South Indian Brahmin do not lay stress on the presence of bride and the groom in their Sagaai, rather it focuses on commitment between the parents of the groom and the bride. 'Latto' i.e., 'engagement plate' Which consist of coconut, flowers, turmeric, betel leaves and betel nuts hold more importance, in their engagement ceremony. The Maithil Brahmin bride of bihar makes her wedding affair stand apart by receiving the blessing from the Dhobi's (washerman's) wife - a compulsory tradition in the Bihari Brahmin wedding.

In Haldi ceremony turmeric powder is mixed with milk, almond oil and sandalwood and applied to the bride and the groom. In Kashmiri Pandit this ceremony has a twist becuase cold, white yoghurt is poured on the bride as an alternative to haldi. ritual is followed by a special custom called Shankha (shell) Paula (coral) in bengali Brahmins, where seven married women embellish the bride's hand with red and white bangles, the shell is supposed to calm the bride and the coral is believed to
be beneficial for health. Mehndi is also applied on every bride's hands during the Mehndi ceremony. However, a Bengali Brahmin bride applies alta (red dye).

After the ceremonious arrival of the groom, the garlands are exchanged between the groom and the bride, while the priests chant mantras. Jaimala is the symbol of unifying two souls into one. But in tamil nadu, "Oonjal", a unique jaimala ceremony is performed and could be best decribed as a tug of war. In this ceremony, the women sing songs to encourage the bride and groom to exchange the garlands while the uncles persuade the soon to be couple not to Exchange the garlands.Before the ceremony of jaimala, the bride makes a majestic entry in Bengali weddings.

Mangal Phere
Fire is considered the most pious element in the Brahmin weddings and seven circles around that fire holds the seven promises that the nuptial couple make to each other amidst the Vedic mantras. The Brahmin wedding is deemed incomplete without the seven rounds around the sacred fire. Unlike other Brahmin weddings, in Gujarati weddings only four pheras are taken which are called the mangalpheras where the pheras represent four basic human goals of Dharma, Artha, Kama, and Miksha (religious, moral, prosperity and salvation). Likewise in Malayalee Brahmin weddings, pheras are taken only thrice.

Post wedding ceremony vidaai
After pheras, the bride's family and friend bid her teary vidaai (farewell). The Kashmiri pundits make their vidaai even more special. their charming ritual, "roth khabar" is performed on a saturday or tuesday after the wedding. In Roth
khabar, the bride's parents send a roth (bread decorated with nuts) to their son - in - law's family. But the bride accompanies She stay with her parents and returns only when someone from in laws comes to fetch her back.

Griha pravesh
The new bride is greeted by her mother - in - law with Arti and tilak. The bride, who is regarded as the Goddess laxmi, enters the groom's house after the groom's house after kicking rice - filled pot. In Kannada Brahmin marriages, the groom changes the name of his wife in the name change ceremony where he decides a name for his wife and inscribes it on a plate containing rice with a ring. In Bihar, a very strange ritual is performs at the groom's place.

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